Wake Up, will ya!

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 7, 2008 at 23:41

Actually I didn't anticipate a response from you and it is good that you have had a look at this site. I don't have a sad story to tell as I am in a long distance, happy 4 year relationship with an Egyptian man who I didn't meet on the internet. I met him in person in Egypt. and our relationship has developed over time.

As we have been saying, Isis, that does not mean anything. Distance IS an issue with your relationship, whether it took 4 years or 40 and you may have met him first, but you got to "know" him over SMS, internet and the phone. Your situation is hardly different, Isis.

Just because boy meets girl on the internet and all seems happy in the interim you will really need to be aware of the huge cultural gap between the west and the middle east. Age difference actually has not much to do with it at all

Isis, I am 27 and I can promise I would NOT marry a woman who is 40. This is a sham not only because of cultural differences but also because of the age difference. Ladies, you are kidding yourselves is you think someone my age wants a long-term serious commitment with you, and enter these relationships at your own peril!

and I don't consider that you are too old for your man.

Why not? Because you too are seeing a younger man? I'll bet real money that is the case, Isis and you are in A LOT more deeper than you realize regardless of what you think you know about Islam and/or the Koran.

Who wants to be with a balding, overweight middle aged man with baggage and a big nose and anyway!

A man who lies, cheats and treats with you no respect is better? Oh, but wait! He has a different concentration of melanin in his skin! Or wait, he's from Morocco, therefore he has good family values! Glad to see you are so hung up on appearance! Just like my exes, Isis. Left me cause I don't have tattoos or piercings, I would imagine! lol!

The relationships frequently discussed on here are no different.

I must admit, I'm disappointed in you, Isis. I expect those kind of comments from a myspace teenager. Then again, the pattern I see in your relationship and in all the others you seem to agree with is a perfect match to that situation.

The family bond between a family in the middle east is strong and this for a lifetime and beyond.

Not always, Isis.

We have nothing to compare this with in our western society.

Is that your own conclusion, Julie, or did your man's imam tell you that?

At any rate, we have PLENTY to compare in Western society, especially in Latin America and the USA among the Catholics and Mormons. Hispanics especially have very solid roots in family and Church, The Greek Orthodox Church has a long, proud tradition and Mormons are also big on strong families, they just have the same rights to polygamous marriages in Canada and the EU that Muslim men have.

You are of course entitled to be happy in a relationship of your choosing but please don't commit to any long term relationship and financial help (incl a lawyer's fees) until you have met him in person a number of times. Meet his friends, talk to his siblings, see where he lives, see where he works.

You should not be paying for anything like lawyer's fees at all in this situation! Heck, I won't even loan money out to family because I know they won't pay me back! Almost every single arbitration case I have seen recently involves couples or family members.

. I am a western woman with a voice, ambition, independence, education and hair that I will not cover. My man understands this and it has never been a problem with us.

Yeah, your education really shows when you label ALL Western men as bad. I'm not surprised, though, I mean like the EU and Canada, Australia has to pander to its Muslim immigrants to remain relevant in world affairs. Even if it means letting Lebanese gangs run amok all over.

You'd be much better off finding a nice Western man in Australia than dating this shadowy figure from Egypt, Isis that you THINK you know.

Your man understands this at least for now because you two are not married. As I have been saying for months, a lot of international scammers will not reveal their true selves until after marriage. Have you listened to nothing that has been said on here in the last several months?

Egyptian men can be just as selfish, ignornant (actually, literacy rates in the Middle East are dropping to population growth and increasing Western appeasement) and sex-crazed as Western men.

Your passion could very well be your undoing, Isis, and I think you are deluding yourself if you think that something good can come out of Missy's relationship.

It would not be the first time.

-Straight_Talk_Luigi

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