Hey man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 11, 2008 at 22:40

Sorry to hear about your situation, but I do appreciate you sharing your story. It's not often we hear from men on this site.

The thing about dating religious people is that they are very unlikely to give up their convictions for a relationship.

As I tell the ladies on here, the cultural differences need to be acknowledged and simply cannot be ignored.

You really do not say much, so I do not know if she was hiding that from you or not. It honestly would NOT surprise if she did; women sometimes drag things on for months at a time to avoid hurting a guy.

I actually dated a girl for a bit in Oct/Nov and she told her best friend, who was conicidentally my neighbor, that she did not see us as a couple and my neighbor told her that she needed to be up front with me.

Well she was----she broke up with me via e-mail. Disappointing, really.

I may have some insight as to why you are posting on here: Most of us have been hurt by intercultural dating and a lot of people on here are not sure about it---even if they will not readily admit it.

I think the best thing I can say to you at this point is that it is okay to grieve and feel sad. Maybe in a bit you'll even be angry with her, and I'd say that's normal.

If there is one thing to be blunt on, it is that you really do not need someone like that. I really wonder if she was who you thought she was.

I would honestly stay busy, get out of the house, treat yourself, hang out with friends and family.

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