Response to Jackie on her Moroccan Marriage

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 11, 2008 at 23:49

Well, I feel like I have to tell you that you are being a bit overprotective of your 40 yr old daughter. There is unfortunately nothing you can do but tell her your feelings and hope and pray that she is doing the right thing.

Psh, yeah, she's supposed to just sit around and let some jerk take advantage of her daughter. Tell you what: when your kids start dating, maybe you'll have a different perspective.

She will never know unless she gives it a shot. It is her life and she deserves to be happy.

The whole argument that this is HER choice is a bunch of nonsense. She's making a stupid choice. I'll bet things did not go down this way with your Moroccan man.

Now, I am married to a Moroccan man. We have been together for 12 years. Married for 11. We have 3 beautiful children and he is a loving, wonderful husband and father. We have 2 vacation homes in Morocco and go there every year for 4-6 weeks.

Morocco is a very European country.

I'm REALLY shaking my head at this. You really do just go to your vacation home and resort there don't you, Jackie?

Oh yes, I know ALL about these places. In fact, I work for a resort company. The locals are paid and/or given incentive to keep their REAL feelings about Westerners buried deep down in favor of the economy.

If Morocco is so "European", it would probably be in the EU. The reality is that Morocco has key elements of sharia law integrated into its legal system. The difference between Morocco and say Saudi Arabia, is that the rules are not enforced very much, and bribery is a symptom all over Africa that seems next to incurable. I actually have friends and relatives who live there.

I think you are being a bit stereotypical about your views on Morocco and the men there. Sure there are possessive men there.

I do not see any stereotyping, so you can drop the ethnicity card. Won't work on here, Jackie.

Just as there are here in America. You will hear good stories and you will hear bad. Just like in the US.

My husband is Muslim and I am Christian. If you study the religion at all, you will see that is is VERY similar to Christianity.

Does this mean your husband will convert?

The main difference being that they believe Jesus to be a prophet, but not the son of God. Moroccans are very welcoming, warm and loving.

I have nothing against Moroccans at all, but I'll bet they are VERY welcoming at your vacation home. No doubt about that.

So, Jackie, if your marriage is so fantastic, what on Earth are you doing looking up this stuff on the internet? 12 years is a long time in this day and age to be married, but marriage + children is NOT the finish line.

Also, under what circumstances did you meet your man? The success story I read about here involved the woman and her man meeting in person in the same country where he did not need a visa and had a job and was well-to-do and was very Westernized.

I think you should let your daughter make her own decisions, whether you agree with them or not, she is very much an adult and needs you to support her and love her.

If people want to get treated like adults, they should act like adults. Coming onto a blog and talking up your relationship, marriage or your man's culture is hardly mature and is a red flag.

If you actually read through some of the posts over the last 2 years, you will not find one single, solitary Moroccan Muslim couple on here defending their marriage, religion or culture. Not ONE, Jackie.

They are too busy with their own lives and raising their kids to worry about what some bloggers post about them. The security and confidence of their relationships cannot be pierced by emotional, on-line nonsense.

It is ALL Western women who are in relationships or as is usually the case flings with these men who are on here saying you're stereotypical, you're islamphobic, you've never traveled, you're a bitter American, ect ect.

Honestly, Jackie, these scenarios are nothing unique, and I suspect your marriage is not as golden as you are making it out to be.

-Luigi

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