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Submitted by Nora Wimberley (United States), Dec 12, 2008 at 14:10

I truly understand where you are coming from. I respect your opnion. But my mom knows about my fiance. When I told her about him, she was a little hesitant. She asked me is Morocco a Islam country. I answered her yes. She told me she would be very honest with me, she told me the things she knew from the media and what other's had said. She told me she was very concern for me, because in all honesty the only things she knew was negative, and she was uneducated on this. She told me to investagate the country, the religion and talk to other people that are in relationships. But i was already one step ahead of her. I had already started reading books on Morocco and Islam. I was chatting with people in Morocco before i met my finace. And a member of a awesome group.

Once i showed her the sites of the information and books i had. She was a little more comfortable. She was scared about me going to Morocco period because she would not be there in cause if anything happened to me; crashing planes or car accidents or the most terribble things. So i took a chance and i knew there was only one person that could ease my mother's fears and answer her questions. And that was my finace. So she started to chat with him, and a big releif came to her.

I am not going to say she was still not scared for me, becuase she was. And as far as my children, they were my top concern. I let my mom have power of attroney on my kids, just in case something happened. I was not going to let fear stop me, and even though my mom was scared she knew i had to go, and supported me. I am 31 years old my mom can not make decisions for me, and if i make mistakes i have to make them to learn. Much of the same for your daughter.

But i have been to Morocco the people are nice. And i was treated well. I did not marry because i wanted to meet my man face to face and spend time with him and go from there. I relaize your daughter wants to marry him when she goes there. But you can not live her life for her, you have to let her make mistakes or she will continue to make decisions like this. And i hate to say this but if you continue to believe all the negative and don't find and see the positives you could push her right into marriage which is not what you want to do.

There is scammers out there in every country and is hard to figure out the scammer and who is not. But there is certain things that say scammer. And i don't trust her online lawyer. She needs a local lawyer if she thinks she needs one. And i am concerned with jumping form one marriage to another. but if she is in love then, i am happy for her.

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