Response from a Catholic

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 12, 2008 at 17:38

I agree with Maria and I am very happy somebody here has an open mind! Look, if you go into it with fears and all the stereotypes in your head, then it is almost certain, it will go wrong. Things become self-fulfilling prophecies. If you treat a man, any man, Muslim or not, great and behave with self-respect, you can and will have a fulfilling relationship (provided you believe the person is worth it). I, like Maria, was raised Catholic and am dating a Muslim man.

The problem is that the man does not respect the woman in most of the cases. Just because we do not agree does not mean we are stereotypical or close-minded. Maybe your man has more control over you than you are willing to admit? And if its so great, why are you on here looking this stuff up on-line?

Neither of us is very religious, but culturally, well, culture runs deep. I love his culture and it is very beautiful, the traditions, the values, the principles, just see it this way, as something beautiful to learn from and he can learn from your culture as well!

You have a moral responsibility as a Catholic to see that any kids that result from this are raised Catholic and not Muslim.

Just be respectful of his culture at all times. Most likely he will be respectful of yours then.

Only as long as he get what he wants.

The 'mirroring' effect is true in all human relationships. If you give love (love, not disrespect to yourself or behaving like a wallflower), you will get love back. Again, just have your boundaries, what you accept, what you don't, very clear in any relationship and good luck!

No, it's not true, and mirroring is pretty much impossible to perform over the internet or by distance.

Boundaries are an impediment, so are the cultural differences.

Oh, and as far your relationship is concerned, marriage is not the finish line.

I just hope you have as much appreciation for your own culture as his. If not, well, that's not good at all and it means you do not respect yourself and/or you are brainwashed.

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