to missy : I agree with Kelly

Submitted by sandie (United States), Dec 13, 2008 at 17:57

The whole scenerio with your man is one huge RED FLAG. It is part of their emotional abuse, the emotional control. I read your moms concerned post, which by the way, was done out of love, and I read your post, which appears to be done out pure retalliation .

How can you for the life of you, believe that an "online" lawyer can "get" him here for 1800 dollars? I went to immigration for someone who I know, and inquired about the visa's all types. They said in the end, no matter what, NO ONE CAN GUARENTEE a visa, no matter how little or how much is paid. I have several close friends who are lawyers, so I asked them also, they said the same thing, it is up the embassy to give him a visa or not, and it is up to the POINT OF ENTRY to decide to let them him. No one can make this promise and anyone who does is lying to begin with.

Kelly and several others here have very valid points regarding Islam. You are not looking at any of this rationally or even looking at the impact this will have on your young daughter. Who you date, where you meet them, how you relate with them, ALL WILL HAVE A GREAT IMPACT ON WHO SHEEE DATES AND HOW SHE ALLOWS men to treat her, in short, she will learn by your example. And right now, you are not a good example. I am sorry to be so harsh, but it is the truth, everyone on here can see it, but YOU. That is a typical sign of emotional abuse. How do I know? I AM A SOCIAL WORKER, WHO IS THE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND NOW A DV COUNCELOR and advocate...... This guy is controling your emotions and your mind, and your heart. IF he gets here, he will control the money, and what ever else. IS this the sort of person you want your daughter around? You should think this all through , take a breather from him, step back and get yourself together, becasue from your post, you sounded like you were doing this to spite your mother and to prove a point. You spent more time defending your relationship and making excuses for you"boyfriend" than anything else. None of it looks good and you need to get a grip.

Your view on Islam is so far off it isnt funny. My advise? Go there if you want to go, but give custody of your daughter to your ex husband. No need to drag her into your mess. Frankly, you are a grown woman, which is why you should know better.

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