My Algerian Guy & Breaking Up/Lisa in USA

Submitted by KarenG (United States), Dec 14, 2008 at 19:26

Well, first off, he completely dismissed my break up as a breakup. Then we talked about everything in a couple of conversations. He said of course my children come first and that he was only joking. I am not inclined to disbelieve him, but I'm short on trust just in general this days... The one thing that got my attention was that I had a major issue come up this weekend and he immediately said you should have called me and I would have done X. And doing X would really have put him out but helped me ALOT. Hell, that's more than my almost ex husband was willing to do for me when we had been dating after a year.

I do feel he sincerely meant it; it wasn't part of a game. He says he thinks there's something more between us, and I don't disagree. But still, I worry about this cultural divide. I don't know if I'll see him again.

Anyway, I don't know if I'll post here again. I am in complete agreement that all of these online daitng/fiance/marriage things are SCARY and UNWISE. Who marries a person and brings them into their home with their children to live when they do not intimately know this person? And even my 33 year old guy has told me he's too young for kids and will get married and have sons one day, two days after he told me he didn't want younger women, but preferred an older woman with kids and who already knows what she is doing. I mean, what is a reasonable person to believe? (Then again, my guy tells me he listens to how I deal with my kids when we are on the phone together and I am with my kids.) BUT at least I know him. I see him and we talk and we goof around and eat together and make each other laugh. And he cooks for me. And I do things for him. This meeting foreign men online and dating online and going to their country to marry them, especially when they are younger and we are divorced with kids, just smells bad. I told my Algerian guy NOT to call me "your majesty". Because I find it offensive and I explained that, if an American guy told me that, it would surely be sarcastic. Remember the queen is always second to the king.

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