Thank you, thank you

Submitted by Nora Wimberley (United States), Dec 15, 2008 at 08:24

I read your story and it sounds so much like mine. My fiance was glad to be seen with me. We walked everywhere in the city's we went to. Yes many Moroccans stared at me and him. But i did not care, becasue i was with a man I was more then comfortable with. People forget when we go to Morocco it is like the wizard of Oz, where not in the states anymore (not in Kansas). We are in a country that even if we read about the country and know what to except, we have to trust these men.

And that is the time there intentions become clear. My fiance would hold my hand every where we went. And his best fried traveled with us. He would stay with me if my fiance had to releive him self or pay for a meal or any time he had to leave me for any reason. I was not alone, if not his freind then his brother was by my side at all time's. My fiance promised my mom I would be protected and I was. I was so protected that I could not let my natural curiosty go. We explored a french town in ruins and I could not go in dangerous places, simply because Moroccans are well aware that in the smaller citys there health care is not the best, In his mind I just could not get hurt. To many on here they would say that was control, supression blah blah... I see it as he loves me enough to look out for my well fare. I also did not have to convert my money when I went to Morocco. He paid for everything and he is not wealthy, but had been saving for a long time. He also remodel his family's home so i had a nice home to come too. But was not able to finish it before I got there.

His family was great. HIs sisters and cousins was learning english for me. I love his mother even though we could not speak to each other, the expressions and eating together tell so much about people. His aunt did learn to say I love you in english so she could tell me. I also had henna done while I was there, just not any one could do my henna. The lady that did it had went to school with his sister. Whom they trusted very much. I was going to have a engagement party, but time just ran out on us. Two weeks went so fast, it was unbeleivable. I shopped with his sisters, and which was funny I would walk with his sisters and the men followed us. Men and women do not mingle together. His friends did not approach me, unless my fiance invited them. Many told me that they were so happy to see there best friend smile so much and that it had been a long time since they seen him so happy, and they thanked me.

But as we seen on this site it only takes a few bad ones and it ruins it for the rest. And if you defend them, then you are brainwashed or defending Islam and would these people defend you or the western culture. And it is funny because they can not come up with anything else because you brought up points they can not respond too, so they do a typical judging of anything about you, even if you don't type english perfect. I believe we should get facts out about online dating/lover scams. There is a lot of that going on in every country even the States. Even put our heads together with our experiences and make a guide for red flags to scamming. But this pure out judgement without full details, is not good and this is why there will not ever be peace. And as far as Lugi goes, i have not had a chance to read all his post. But you can tell he has been burned. And that saddens me, because i am sure very good people are being turned bitter from there own hurtful experiences. Which makes them not want anyone else to be hurt and it helps, but sometimes we are so blinded by our own experiences that they all sound the same and sucpusious.

I have been scammed by a lover scam, it made me want to help people. But i excepted I lost money and dignity, and now I should help others so it don't happen to them. And it is hard to tell the difference between scam and the real thing. But visa scammers will not stick around for very long. They want one thing and want it fast. So I think ladies that have time in there realationships know where there relationship is really going. But if they only want money, they will deture you from visiting them. And tell you they can get a visa on there own but it cost this much. I know the signs, but i have been marked as another one of those poor souls that is all caught up and brainwashed. Please, the frist time Lugi responed to me i knew his mission was becasue he was hurt before and I told him that.

For anyone in a relationship like these, please, please, do research and ask lots of questions. And join online groups with people in the same situation. They can let you know if it is a scam or not and help guide you through.

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