Nora--Negative or Positive, Facts are FACTS

Submitted by Nora Wimberley (United States), Dec 16, 2008 at 07:52

This response from you makes more sense. Thanks for taking the time to respond and explain. And for the most part you are right. But people in healthy relationships stumble upon this sites too, and once they read the half truths, the defending starts. That's just being frank about it. Sometimes they want to give people hope that there relationships can work. When someone writes a post here we only know what info they give us, it is not fair to assume. And it is not fair to pass judgment on a whole culture because of a few bad experiences. I will not say any culture is perfect, because all cultures have there good and bad. There is no advoiding it.

All we can do is get information out there and warn them it sounds a little weird and this is red flags it is scamming for money, visa, etc. And there is many misconceptions too with these international relationships. Things vary from culture to culture and even the beliefs in religion can vary from culture to culture. So if something happens to one person that was dating a eygptian for a example and wants to give advice to a woman dating a moroccan, it has to be taking half hearted. Because things in egypt is very different then in Morocco even though both is Muslims. I experienced this first hand.

For example, i have a friend from egypt and he could not believe me that woman in Morocco do not have to cover there heads while out in public, if they do not want to. I told him i could not explain why that was, only my fiance could and he did. But same goes in Saudi Arabia, the woman are covered and must wear black. My friend in Egypt thought that was very wrong, too. When you say facts are facts, be careful when addressing islam country's because there is big differences. Heck there is big differences between the Shites and Sunnies(spelling is not right). I believe your heart is in the right place and you are truthful and honest, but some of the things you have stated are not all true. I believe that is because I have been to Morocco and I have seen first hand some of these differences.

I do have things that make me think red flags with online dating, but it really differs from person to person. For example nigerians start putting, out sweet nothings and I love yous to feel you out if you are varnable to scam money, which is not much different then the visa scam. I think the best advice is to not rush into anything and even though Muslims don't believe in dating that a online relationship is different and needs time. Money scammers and visa scammers want to move quickly to get what they want.

But when a person refuses to, they move on to greener pastures. But then you have a different money scam i have seen with Moroccans. They promise love, but instead of inviting you to there country, they say no I will get visa on my own to come to you. Well when a woman does not know about the visa process they fall for this scam. And you start sending money to make there bank accounts look fat, for travel visa or work visa. But what woman do not realize is most honorable men well not take a woman's money. They believe that should be spent on the woman not giving to the man. Because men must provide for there family. Basic info like this should be giving out not the raw things like you are brainwashed, or when all else fails, you do not write good english.

I am not perfect and what does my english have to do with helping people in need. Also i am Humanitarian, i feel a over whelming urge to help people. Does not matter if it is to alert to a possible scam, to calm there over whelming hearts and minds to bitter information giving to them about international relationships. This all started with this concerned mother. And with the info she gave it does sound like a scam. But does this grown woman want to marry him on her own and is she pushing for marriage or is he pushing for it. That we do not know and it does make a difference.I mean is she pushing for another fast marriage to make up for her last bad marriage.

The whole online lawyer that is not good, but we do have internet at our fingers, and it seems easier to search online then go through a phone book and calling a lawyer. Men think logical and woman think emotional. That is why men can not figure woman out, and why woman get frustrated with men.

I know you have burned too, so i know where your passion comes from, that was clear from the beginning. Which is a subject you never touch on, even though i have brought it up every time i have responded to you. I am not so naive.

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