Dear Spacebunny: A heartfelt response, here is something you can do

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 17, 2008 at 17:27

Hi there spacebunny (love the username!)

I read your post and I think that what has happened to you is more common than you may think. You really do not say anything about how you guys met and how long it was before you got married, but my hunch is that this happened rather quickly.

Spacebunny, I have been on here for a while now and your man does not have to be a scammer or liar or cheat or whatever for this to be a miserable experience.

I think what he is doing, albeit politely I'm guessing, is trying to get to you to into his cultural groove and perhaps eventually to become Muslim. It's very possible that he had this planned from the beginning.

The thing about religious men is that they rarely will leave their religious convictions permanently for a woman. I have written to women on here several times that just because a man sleeps with you does not mean that he has changed his views or will change. People do not like to change.

And that's really the issue here, spacebunny. You're not going to change, neither is he.

I'm no fan of divorce, but clearly this really bothers you, and I would not be fooled by how polite he is either. I think his agenda is to get to you to be Muslim.

If you are not happy, then I would encourage you very much to start making a plan to leave this man, and you will find support on here from me.

I realize something like that cannot happen overnight, but I really do not see him changing, especially if this was a quick marriage.

-Luigi

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