Response to RebeccaJ

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 18, 2008 at 20:17

Hey there Rebeccaj! I really appreciate your sharing that!

What I would say to is that you can still end this if you are not comfortable with the situation, and I can understand why.

Meeting men on holiday is not the ideal scenario for finding a husband, especially if he was already married.

All kinds of scammers and thieves purposely target people on vacation. Timeshare seminar givers in in Mexico and the southern USA do that couples because they are usually without kids and they can do a hard sell in an efficient way.

Men in foreign lands do it because your guard is down, and if you are divorced, it's kind of like a bonus in their minds because divorced women from a marketing standpoint are more open to listen and in many cases just more desperate.

You have not said much about how you communicated there after, but if it were over the phone or internet, that presents problems because you are only getting a fraction of the real thing, Rebecca. It really means that you do know not REALLY know him, and I can sense this is why you seem uncertain. Not being sure is what brings a lot of women here.

You are right that divorce is rare and looked down upon in Tunisia, but aside from that, do you really he'll leave his wife for you? I have to agree with Isis that I do not think so, if anything, he is trying to string you along so that you invest time, emotion and energy into the relationship and will eventually give in.

I can understand your attraction to this man, and I'm sure he seems much better than your ex husband. But I really think you need to consider this.

I would not consider being a second wife, because my concern there is that you will not be respected. Some of these men are just looking for a Western women to do on the side (for bragging rights if nothing else) and have her do all the chores.

Men who are that conservative just do not leave their wives for someone else.

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