To Rosy --- I am very concerned here

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 18, 2008 at 21:00

Rosy, I am glad that you came on here to share your story with us. I won't be trying to debate you, but so you can see where I am coming from, I will respond directly

Hello everybody: After reading some of these horrible stories and along with my doubts I came to realize that my told husband who is still in Pakistan waiting for a visa to come to USA has been lying to me and all that he wants is to get here. My story is long and would not annoy all of you with it, but for all those suffering because a loved one has done wrong and used you for a green card just think that God or in who or what you believe is giving all of us a blessing by removing such trash from our lives.

A lot of women have some privacy concerns about posting on here, but I would encourage to say whatever you need to on here, and your story would not bore me :)

Because of this man I put my life in risk by leaving USA when I was in ending stage of renal failure without treatment at all. I lost my job, savings and wasted time on him. These last weeks and while processing his visa to USA I started realizing how much information He got about the topic that he would know what step to follow after his visa has been temporally denied (october. 2008) He recently told me that he could re-apply in 6 months and wait to be here with me even years. But then who is going to support me during this waiting period? He never said to me " I would do my best to bring you over with me, I would send you even for the phone bill, etc,"

It sounds like your man does not appreciate your situation. He sounds fairly well-to-do for living in a country like Pakistan, heavily dependent on foreign aid.

My guess is that they are not going to let him in for whatever reason, and it's for the best. I would not count on any help from him. Chances are, he'll be looking to someone else to get what he wants. People just do not usually wait around for stuff like this.

He knows I am in disability, living with a low income not even 600 usd per month. While I was in Pakistan his family never visited us neither call me, once I got back to USA his mother would greet me on the phone very often. I did send him money before going to Pakistan but it was not more than 300. I asked him for 500 to fill out the immigration forms and ended up doing it myself so those 500 I used to take my loved little dog to the vet, he was very sick. I bet "husband" did not like it.

So, you gave him money and then he gave you money? I really do not like the sound of that. I am very staunch that money exchanges between unmarried couples is bad, even if the intentions are noble. As for spending it on the dog, that's your choice and I support it.

I need to put a total stop for the visa case, and divorce him. I just have a big worry, as the officer interviewing him in Pakistan for the visa case made a big mistake and handled him extra documents i send for the case and one of them has my social security number, I really do not know what to do and I am afraid to stop talking to him and say goodbye to him.

Here is what I would do:

Call the State Department

I cannot post phone numbers on here, but I would first call the Visa office and then if that does not work, call the main switchboard and ask for the Pakistan desk office.

This is also worth reading

I have been so hurt and my above talk as making fun of the 500 dollars is just how down I have been feeling with this situation, I attempted suicide and was about to die, go figure. To all of you having this sort of situation I would say just walk away, do not need to bring anybody from far away or go that far to find love. Here and now we are a lot needing love. Blessings to all.

Wow, Rosy, I would really suggest going to see a professional to talk about this. You can certainly come on here, I'll listen and be more than happy to do so, but if you are tryiing suicide, that is not good.

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