Marriages and failure

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 18, 2008 at 21:12

Keri I did not tell you he was OLDEST son...You Assumed....He is not the oldest...there is son from first marriage who also married someone older a French lady and they live happily in France.....He left a good paying job to be with her and I have these wedding photos saved to a file and she remains Christian. and again...Like Luigi...you were burned and you have all the right answers and cause your man ended up being a liar then I guess all others are too...and since your marriage failed all others will too....

These marriages fail because they are based on the trivial--appearance and youth---and because women ignore all the warning signs and give their man free passes because he is of a different culture and because they think that on-line dating is easier when it fact it presents even more challenges.

I am sorry you were hurt but you tell me take it easy that I do not know this man but yet you can tell me you know him without even talking to him or meeting him or living with him to make assumption he will be like your husband? I know his character...He is not a fraud......and this sister is not the sister who is married to a doctor. She is divorced....He has 6 sisters and two brothers...He is second son....and before you made statement about sister did I not say she mentioned she would never charge me anything for rent in future because she now considers me family and the wife of her brother? and Keri...your comment i will paste below:

You really think they consider you family after ONE meeting?!?!

Anyhow Lisa, Its beyond me how you could marry a man who has never interacted with your children. Talking to them on the net does not count. How can you just bring a total stranger into their living space? ... Wow Keri...you just posted you did the same thing but you want to talk down to Me and think i should take advice from you? what is up with this? I guess you are a better person than me? ...hhhmmmmm...I lived with this man to get an idea if my kids would love him and don't you think i am a good judge of what my kids will like better than you?

You might be surprised, she's been through this before.

Addicted to MSN, women on the side, lies, money hungry yet lazy..To this day I know he loves me in his own way. He continues to contact me.

It's a sick kind of love don't you think Keri...maybe you need to seek what love actually means and correct me if i am wrong but its not lieing or cheating or taking from one you profess to love...hmmmmm...i talked to my kids in private on my mans computer in his room and i looked through his messages...guess what keri....all messages from me and he did not realize i would be in his room at his family home using his computer and he didn't know i would be smart enough and bold enough to look and i also looked at his contact list....just because your man liked chatting and lieing doesn't mean all these other men are like him.....in fact keri tonight he had frnds in from spain...old college frnds and before he would go to resturaunt with bar with them he told them he had to see his wife and discuss it with her...they asked him to call me...but he wanted to see me about it first...it is the kind of person he is...he is a good man....

Yeah, he could have deleted them. I've heard this before too. My myspace woman supposedly did the same thing, but she was having sex on-line with someone else every week. Also, some women have even mentioned they give their man their passwords and vice-versa. Trust me, if he's up to something, there's much more clever ways to go about hiding that.

and keri i will be willing to make a bet with you he will be the same down the road from now....i can talk to you or Luigi til I am blue in the face but you don't know him like I do and it will not change matters but i don't need your advice.....i don't like your holy than thou attitude....sorry but i speak what i feel and you didn't mind hurting my feelings so all is well.

I think you need a fresh perspecitve, Lisa, and if you are hurt that much by what people say on the internet, then why do you keep on posting?

I don't think Keri meant to hurt anyone's feelings. She responded to me in a earlier thread about Canada and laid the law down, but it doesn't bother me much.

You can say you know him, but you really do not. You do not get to know someone over the internet or the phone or by meeting them once.

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