lisa

Submitted by Keri (Canada), Dec 18, 2008 at 22:22

Wow Keri...you just posted you did the same thing but you want to talk down to Me and think i should take advice from you? what is up with this? I guess you are a better person than me? ...hhhmmmmm...I lived with this man to get an idea if my kids would love him and don't you think i am a good judge of what my kids will like better than you?

Hi Lisa, to clarify, I did not marry this man. I visited him twice in the USA and he came to Canada for one month after talking to him for close to two years. He slept in the spare bedroom downstairs and I was very careful to not let my kids see us together. I certainly would never have married the man without seeing how he interacts with my children.

I may have made an assumption about his birth order, but the fact remains that children are thought of as a necessity for a man.

I am still curious about why you had to spend one cent on any paperwork, especially given the fact that his family is wealthy. If that is the case, why didn't he pay his sister for your accommodations?

It's a sick kind of love don't you think Keri...maybe you need to seek what love actually means and correct me if i am wrong but its not lieing or cheating or taking from one you profess to love...hmmmmm...i talked to my kids in private on my mans computer in his room and i looked through his messages...guess what keri....all messages from me and he did not realize i would be in his room at his family home using his computer and he didn't know i would be smart enough and bold enough to look and i also looked at his contact list....just because your man liked chatting and lieing doesn't mean all these other men are like him.....in fact keri tonight he had frnds in from spain...old college frnds and before he would go to resturaunt with bar with them he told them he had to see his wife and discuss it with her...they asked him to call me...but he wanted to see me about it first...it is the kind of person he is...he is a good man....

I agree totally. The fact is, of course, I never thought that my man would do something like this. He actually told me he was a virgin and I thought I was his "first". It took me almost two years and three meetings before he hung himself in his lies. It was devestating, really, because he had me hook, line and sinker. I never thought that my man could turn out to be such a liar. It was not in his nature. I felt like I was dealing with Jekyll and Hyde. It just didn't make any sense to me.

I certainly didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I apologize that you took it that way. I am 39 yrs old and know what it feels like to want to have your life back. For too long both you and I have had the responsibility of raising children alone. It's nice to just be "keri" or "lisa" instead of mom. I know the feeling of just enjoying being a woman with no responsibilities and feeling "wanted and in love". It was nice to feel like a woman for a while. The fact of the matter though is that your man will want children. If heis 32, educated and has money there is a reason why he is not married. Something does not add up. Just take your time Lisa. What's the rush? It's not like you are going to have kids with this man.

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