Thanks.

Submitted by Rosy (United States), Dec 19, 2008 at 17:11

Thank you Nora. I know he just wants to come to USA for several reasons: For now I am in the process of removing the sadness it causes me to think of 3 years of my life believing in him. These last couple of weeks I have been thinking about it and I feel ashamed to tell because everybody out there could see what I did not. "Baby I swear to God that I will pay you all the money you have used for us,(food, water, electricity, gas) and the ticket to go to Pakistan. My family loves you do not worry, I feel so sad letting you pay for food but I cannot find a job. Oh baby come on I am 30 years old not 25 but my birth certificate was changed for me to join the air force. Sweetie can you give me one of your glucose meters to give to my uncle? (which uncle if I did not meet relatives except some of his brothers, mother and sisters in law) can you give my mom your blood pressure monitor I think you can find cheaper in USA?, sweetie can you send me products for my hair?, give me one of your rings and perfume.. etc, etc."

I married in my own clothes and not with the promised red wedding dress he got for me because on the sudden he was unable to get it! - our marriage witnesses were 3 strangers, not pictures but few he took with my own camera. See all of these is really nothing compared to all the rest, but I was blind. Today I feel humiliated why I did all that? I left my family, the chance to get medical treatment, my loved dogs. He played with my 40 years and feelings. I do not even know what to tell Immigration and the Visa Center, after begging them to please allow my husband to be with me. I do feel so ashamed to discuss my feelings in person.

I am hurt but it is better this way. I do not want to put my hands on fire for him because at this point I do not believe any of his words, he does not deserve any of my efforts. My friend is looking to see if I could get divorced without him even knowing about it, I do not want him to have the satisfaction of divorcing me. Once again thanks for reading my post

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