Same here, dating a Turkish man..

Submitted by angie (United States), Dec 20, 2008 at 00:45

hi there,

I hear you.. feel the same as you, although I am not married with my boyfriend yet. We had been dating for one year and a half. I am Catholic. I never thought I'd fall in love but him as much as I did.. he treated me the best and really thought he was my soulmate.

After one year of intensive dating, Things started getting more serious and we started to talk about us, and possibly getting married and stuff. He told me that he couldn't tell his parents he was dating a Catholic until him and I were engaged and I accepted it.

Well, many months later we started fighting because he would not tell his parents, even though we loved each other very much. He started saying that if we married it'd be hard for me because I would not be allowed to go to mass in front of his family, which I could not understand and did not accept.

Now, a few months later, he broke up with me saying that it's so many troubles, his family, the religion, different language, how to raise kids (he doesn't want them Catholic of course), etc. etc

I am broken hearted. I loved this man with all my heart and thought that eventually we could work things out. We warned me that if him and I were together, it'd be very hard for me not being able to communicate with his family in another country (France). He doesn't want to stay in the USA.

I still have the hope that maybe if I give up many things it will work out, but am afraid that it won't...

I don't know whether to move on... i love him very very very much...

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