Help me understand this Yasemin

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Dec 21, 2008 at 21:04

"And I loved him, he was the only man i wanted."

I am having trouble understanding your emotions Yasemin. From your previous posts I gather that you were married to a Turkish man who married another woman behind your back and he also had children with her. He tried to poison you, he drugged you and robbed you. He also extorted money from you on the premise of paying for a flat in which he and his new wife were living. And you still carry a torch for this man?

Now you have posted -

"Because if you really fall deeply, for years after they abandon you, you will be wandering around lost with those beautiful images in your head and crying inside for what has been lost. And you will never find this lost jewel again.."

I have advised you previously to "move on with your life and not to live in the past". For this piece of sensible advice I was told in no uncertain terms to mind my own business. But here you are again posting your sorrow over this man. Upon reflection, I would be happy that he's gone and in the process, as you seem to have achieved, making his life as miserable as possible . Why are you still letting him trample on you emotionally? You are worthy of far more in your life than being a doormat.

Ten years ago when I was diagnosed with a life threatening illness, my husband at the time decided it was all too hard and started seeing another woman whilst I was undergoing chemotherapy and other experimental procedures in order to cure me. I stayed with him for 2 years listening to all his lying promises that he would stand by me but I couldn't hang around waiting for him to decide so I left him. After some more drastic chemotherapy and other equally as life threatening procedures I made a recovery after six years from initial diagnosis and then - you guessed it! - he wanted to come back to me. Of course I said - no way! I have moved on and left it all behind me now. The anger, the hurt, the distress has all but disappeared and I have a much happier and interesting life now that I could ever have dreamed of having if I had stayed with him or accepted him back into my life

Please get some professional help before this sadness destroys your precious life.

PS - His life has stood still - he married the woman and the marriage lasted barely 12mths. He lost all our mutual friends and his job in the process. He is a really sad , lonely man now - so guess who won - big time!!!

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