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here you go again -IsisReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Nora Wimberley (United States), Dec 22, 2008 at 09:08 HI, Isis I have finally been able to read through a lot of posts on here. Thanks for standing up for Lisa. Her happiness should be hers to have. Not for Lugi to gauge every relationship on here as a scam or the man is a lier or cheat, or cultural changes. So people that convert actualy want to convert. Some woman are scammed that post here. But every relationship is different, and when they pass a certain point, he bring's culture into it. I think any woman that is mature has the insight to discuss these culture differences and start to figure out how to compermise. If a men is going to be controling it will be obvisous in chatting online. If a man is jealous it will show close to the start of a relationship. I mean online dating is online, and like most woman we don't know what our guys are doing. And guess what our guys don't know what we are doing either when we are not chatting. There has to be a trust factor there. But if trust is betrayed, it will show. How woman interput the signs that is a different story. But i think a man that has study about Islam but has not been to many of the country's he discusses about on here, or been in a relationships with this culture does not have much ground to stand on. At least i have been to Morocco, i seen and experienced. Granted 2 weeks was hardly enough time. But my man did not hide anything for me. We walked the streets hand in hand. We had to go through military and police check points. Believe me my passport was checked, and it is in writting that my guy was resoposible for me. People forget that if anything happens to us woman, these men are held responsible for us. Example; a lady in my group i belong to was in morocco and was poisoned by the gas water heater, she did not feel well. So they took her to the hospital and the dr said you came in time, and asked if they had this certain water heater. The dr. looked at her fiance and said you are lucky, because you are responsible and i would have no choice but to report you if she died. He could of served hard time and maybe even faced death too. These woman that are scammed need to report it to the consulate or embasy. The goverment is poor but some things the King does not tolerate. And unless there is numbers there of how many and who are being scammed there is not much that can be done. But many woman are so ashamed to report, and there scammers get to scam another woman. If the consulate knows a man is scamming for a visa they can put his name in a data base and if a woman applies for a visa for that man, it is automaticaly denied. So ladies stand up for your selfs and do something about it. You got the power not these men, these men need us. There is times i do agree with Lugi, but it is because it is obvious there is something not right. I think to make our advice more benifical we should together make a guide to scam redflags. Because even if a woman sees some of these red flags in there relationship, it is up to them to make that decision. And finaly i have to add this. We are all made by god, allah or what ever you call him due to your relgious convictions. Why are we here in the first place? I bleieve it is to learn and to help others. NO matter how much we advise someone it is a scam, if they are to learn from it, there is no stopping it. But that does not give us reason to be bitter and judging to others on here, like i have had and seen with others. I will not claim that i know for a fact i am not being scammed, I could be. But as of right now, things look all clear, and maybe i will be one of the lucky ones. If not then i will learn and help others, but i will not become bitter like so many on here. This is life and it is to short to stop for one man that hurt you. Sorry to ramble on. But i was judge and question about my age. Because i am 31 have 4 kids and already divorced. I guess they thought that even though i am 31 and have 13 years of legal childbearing, that children should be spaced out like i don't know every 5 years or something. And that i could not marry and divorce before 31. I live in america, I've seen couples marry after 1 or 2 kids and then divorce before there 1st year of marriage. The thing i like with online dating, is it forces you to communicate, Which is something americans lack. Just my opnion. Nora Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". << Previous Comment Next Comment >> Reader comments (21922) on this item
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