Walk away from this one..before it's too late

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Dec 22, 2008 at 21:54

Your story sounded sooo promising ....Lebanese are more liberal in marriage outside of their own culture but as you described your background my heart grew heavy...

He will marry if you are caucasion-are a doctor-maybe a lawyer, that's it!! If you are 25 or less in years-come from prestigious family-never married-and NO CHILDREN.

So dear, listen to the MAN from the chat room...Us ladies never listen to the guys when they tell us they are a**holes. We can't believe it!! What WILL happen if he makes a life here w/his young bride after and only after he has his first son he will search for you and simply want an affair with you.

On this site is mostly women that are living this situation....red flags have popped up and we are simply sharing our stories. Some are testing the waters, some have jumped in and are trying to swim ( like me) and some have drowned in misery. Many have even gone to these North African countries to meet the men and their families!! Subhan"allah such courage they have. But sadly, the families are all in on the scam. It seems the ones who are successful after the 2 year period, we just don't hear from. But I promise I will tell my story til the end. My 2 year mark is in August 2009 . I came to this site last October I think...

That "2 year thing" is important because that's about the time they recieve their permanent green card w/o the condition of marriage. Though it takes about 3 years to complete, pass the 2 year point they really don't need you anymore. I have heard so many stories of the guy literally leaving the day the card arrives. W/o a second thought!!

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