Please listen

Submitted by Annie (United States), Dec 23, 2008 at 16:10

End this relationship now, I am telling you I too was with a turkish man, married him and when he became angry I was a "whore" worthless bitch, and any other foul name he could come up with. I would have staked my life that never would he treat me with such disrespect. It was cruel and now I am in the middle of a divorce, and even had to involve the police on two occassions due to his physical abuse.

I know when you love these men it is hard because the sweet side of them is so infectious but it's not real...the only way I cope is that I say to myself the man I married does not exist... He too was telling me he loved me in a month...I think they all read from the same play book...I know I didn't want to believe it either and I stayed in the verbally abusive relationship for almost two years until it became physical and then I left, wondering why I ever put up with any of it.

I am not bitter because I realize it was all a sick game, he told me too that he just married me out of companionship, that he did love me but I soon found him online on these dating sites talking to other girls, just don't put yourself through it...everytime I went to leave he begged me to stay. Then I finally LEFT..and never looked back it has been 3 months, but trust me when I say you don't want to start 2009 in this relationship.. I know it will be hard and your heart will break and you will feel like you can not even breathe but if you stay in this relationship he will tear apart your soul, your friends and family and you yes you won't even know who you are anymore... HE WILL ISOLATE YOU, PLEASE JUST TRUST YOUR GUT...YOU KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT, FOR YOUR CHILDS SAKE...HE WILL NEVER SEE THIS CHILD AS HIS, I AM TELLING YOU ...HE KNOWS ALL THE RIGHT WORDS BUT THERE IS NO MEANING NO REAL MEANING BEHIND THEM..

Best of luck to you...please for your childs sake as well as your own, walk away, and stay away.

annie

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