Reply to Isis: I think I'm starting to like this new relationship-defense-vibe

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 24, 2008 at 02:08

Luigi and others.

Why is it that I am always specifically referenced? Who are the others you speak of ?

You are so right Nora.This site is a great source of information for every western woman involved with a Muslim man. You are also right in stating that when you have actually been to Morocco or as in my case Egypt, many times you absorb the local knowledge and customs far better than from the remote distance of a computer.

Living abroad gives you even more of perspective, and you're kidding yourself if you think that staying in a luxury hotel or at a resort is giving you the full cultural experience.

Not by a long-shot.

As for scamming - this is too much of abroad brush statement. A woman with an ounce of intelligence and dignity would see through a scam in moment but I firmly believe that ignorance of the culture and the people and the vulnerability of women who are carrying baggage from previous relationships also plays a big part in perpetuating scams.

It does because a lot of people in the West are addicted to this kind of drama and anytime someone has to come on the internet and brag or exalt their relationship or their partner---or talk about it to total strangers--- it says a lot. The louder and more intense it is, usually the more uncertain and/or terrible the scenario is. It's a very simple pattern of communication and there is no point whatsoever in denying it because by doing so you only enhance what I have been saying all long.

BUT not everyone in the middle east scams and this is where Luigi and some others have got it all wrong. If you meet a middle eastern man on the internet, then of course the chance of being scammed is far greater as you have no personal contact with the man at the other end.

I would like to add to this: If you meet anyone off of the internet from another country, chances are, it will not work out.

Only his words and body language will give you an inkling of what he is about.

I agree, but its not gonna happen on a few trips out of the year. No, sirree!

As for the age discussion - feel comfortable in the skin you are in. Middle eastern men do not worry about age and it is not an issue with them ...

Yes, Isis, they do, and if they can get a younger woman, I promise you they will. There's good reason why they target older women and you are hardly the exception.

The reason why an older woman seems attractive? Could be because he's already got his blushing Moroccan bride and is looking for another wife, or just wants to shag a Western girl so he can brag to his friends about it. You know, the usual guy stuff.

Even if your man has been told this by his family or imam, trust me, and older woman and a younger man relationship across oceans and cultures means there is a good chance it will not work out. Simple facts and social trends, Isis, that's all there is to it.

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