Luigi, insults, cougars, seasons greetings

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Dec 24, 2008 at 08:24

Oh, Luigi, I see you've prepared for me a nice long lecture just in time for the Christmas festivities lol!

Wow, you "warned" me not to embarrass myself? This is the sort of thing rude husbands say to their wives - "don't embarrass yourself in front of my friends, woman". It's incredibly patronizing! But, in all seriousness, I'm not ashamed of anything I've said, most of the women on here are already going through enough emotional trauma for them to laugh at my statements.

Regarding the insult thing, I really wasn't insulting you. But if according to the editor, it was, I suppose we'll have to define "insult". From what I recall, I wrote about how Muslim men are often referred to as controlling & patronizing, while sometimes you advise people in a way that might be seen as the former. .. If you think I'm an immature teenager who insults others on sites such as Myspace, so be it, but you would be misinformed either way. I've seen first-hand the results of online insults, and the effects that they have on people, and they aren't pretty. Also, I might like to add that you have insulted me by saying that, but according to the editor that's fine. Either way, you're entitled to your opinion and if you hold such a view of me there's nothing I can do to alter it. Only I know the truth about myself.

Yes, I'm fully aware of Daniel Pipes' intelligence and experience - we, on the other hand, aren't bloggers, but commentators. ie. the sole purpose of his audience visiting this site in the first place is to read his articles, although this section has become so populous that it could be seen as more of a forum based on an article, rather than a few comments.

I also may ask, Luigi, who have I criticized on this blog? Besides you, of course (which was in moderation).

Yes, Luigi, as you can see, on this blog I've been threatening the well-being of everyone from George Bush to Hosni Mubarak... Luigi, you do have a tendancy to over-exaggerate things, which causes more harm than good in my opinion.

I'm also rather offended myself that you claim that I have the potential to offend some of the women on here. If anything, you have offended the women most on here, not me. Never once have I told someone to give up on a relationship, or that there's no future with their man (though it could be true). The most I do is offer some neutral, unbiased support. You have, on the other hand, and, as a woman, I know what is hurtful to hear and so far you've pushed all the wrong buttons. I'm definitely not disagreeing with your straightforward way of advice, & you're an extremely intelligent man, but like I said before, playing King of the Castle is ridiculous, because really you know no more than me about these women's personal lives and vice versa. The best we can do is advise.

And I'm definitely not arguing about the older-woman-younger-man scenario that is commonplace in Visa scams. To tell you the truth, when I was in Egypt, an Egyptian man told me the following: "I don't go out with younger women like you, because old women have more money". I was gobsmacked to say in the least, and I'm sure he could see the look of disgust on my face. I didn't know whether to applaud his honesty or curse his actions. To me, that makes a man no different to a prostitute. And I saw it several times, older women (and men) pampering young bazar boys, while they're mocked behind their back. Yes, this behaviour is very common in the Middle East, I'll say that, but my point was that not all relationships involving older women are doomed to fail, and I find them much healthier than the older-man-younger-woman partnership. But that's just a personal opinion.

That said, I can see how these women might be attracted to younger ME men, as they are often very pushy and sell themselves almost as well as they sell their Bastet statues.

Well, it's true about 30+ persons living most of their lives as adults, but I also know younger people who are more skilled, knowledgable and streetsmart than them. Remember, some people don't even begin to question their existence until they reach their 40s - some never do, and I find that young people of today seem to be more sharper-witted than those several generations back. That said, I doubt it has anything to do with the educational system improving, as I myself have learnt more out of school premises than in. Well all in all, young people shouldn't always be cast aside as "naive" or inexperienced, as rash judgement causes alienation and consequentially a lack of respect for elders/authority.

Regarding internet regulations, yes that's definitely a concern, and I think that the huge scale of Internet scammers should be brought to light, exposed and researched, and that it's not really that different to repeated shoplifting. That it should basically result in severe punishment. This message should be put across not only in the West but in the countries of origin, ie. Nigeria. Scamming is not a petty crime, it's on the same plane as money laundering in my opinion, but carried out in such a scheming manner that it leaves the victim confused and emotionally scarred. It's not even a relationship, it's like being being kissed by a man while he digs into your back pocket.

Well of course piracy carries a greater risk to society than online scamming *sigh* Well, yes unfortunately that's just how society works, and truthfully, most agents/industries could care less about the financial loss of a cheated woman - after all, it won't affect the economy.

Well there are two types of women who date interculturally, particularly on this board: there are the women who aren't looking for a relationship, but are approached by exotic men; and then there are those who are so sick of their own men that they actively seek out men of other races and cultures. To them it's fresh, it's different, and the new man seems to have traditional values & great looks that a girl could only dream about.

That is an extremely harsh statement regarding sex slaves and dishwashers! Hahaha, well by education I think that some people just need to go through the Education of Life (which, from experience, isn't a subject touched upon in school) rather than learning algebra and the history of art. Anyway, the educational system is too PC for my liking, and they wonder why kids are shocked when they're released into the cold, hard world.

Unfortunately, some women seem to prefer men who will treat them like dirt - I know a lot of girls/women in relationships like that, but they will never listen either way. Whether it's the whole "Bad Boy" attraction, I don't know. I personally think it's due to deep-rooted psychological issues, sometimes even to do with paternal conflicts. Most of the women I knew had bad relationships with their fathers.

Yes I'm definitely not shallow, to me it's one thing seeing an aesthetically-pleasing young man and thinking "hmmm' lol, but love is something else. Love is a unique feeling that only appears once in your life, you just know when you're spiritually unified with someone, corny as that sounds.

Actually, I quit interracting on other sites about a year ago, I matured a lot. I mean I'm on Facebook but only because I was practically forced on there lol. I myself think the internet can be a very negative influence on society, I've seen it affect people's behaviour for the worse and even cause breakups.

Ok, well I admit that I'm not that well-informed regarding divorces, after all, I've never been married, thus I can only offer what I do know.

Me being an adult means nothing, I'll say that. I'm no more or less intelligent than I was when I was a few years ago, but I know more now than I did in a lot of ways - but that's down to experience, not age. So I guess it's about experience rather than age. You can be a clueless 40-year-old if you've lead a sheltered life.

No, I don't read any posts here, I just blink and write a paragraph of gobbledygook... I'm not here to win respect, I'm not going to get a degree or a promotion by replying to anyone on here, I'm merely adding a bit of advice and support. Whether they listen to it or not is up to them, I just hope that everything turns out well. Try and compare myself to you? Well that's quite a Myspace-esque statement if I may say so myself!

Merry Christmas! lol

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