Regarding Annonymous One's Advice for On-line dating

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 24, 2008 at 18:20

My response will be quick and to the point; so please do not take offense:

1) Real, matrimonial love cannot nor does not happen over the internet. I would think that by now all of the stories on here profoundly back that up, but it seems to me that like many of the others you just want to think this is real because it is easy. Is that the case?

If you are looking for a husband on the internet across the ocean and distant lands, you are moving against some pretty heavy odds. Even if he's not a scammer, you still have your usual pool of bad apples, which I have to say there are no shortage of on the internet. Do you sincerely believe that real decent men with real lives spend their social time on-line in the wee hours of the morning? And even after that the cultural differences come into play.

2) If you are so certain that things will work out, why are you on here? Better yet, ask yourself why it is necessary to look this up on-line.

3) You are right though about one thing: Three months is wayyyy to soon. That's barely past what most people call the honeymoon phase of the relationship where everything is perfect and you don't know the other person very well. That's why the quick marriage scheme is played so often in these situations.

4) My advice was and will continue to be rational and objective regardless of what others may think.

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