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Submitted by Eveningocean (Canada), Dec 25, 2008 at 13:34

I fell in love with a Turkish man in Canada. He would do the same thing to me as you describe. He would not talk to me for weeks and suddenly go back to Turkey and then come back two months later pleading with me to forgive him. He is secretive about everything he does, but insists on knowing what i do. He tries to control the relationship with emotional abuse.

At first, i found his domineering and persistent attitude attractive and manly; however, when he doesn't get his way, he is able to dump you immediately and seems to feel nothing. I told him he is a jerk and that i wanted a better man, who knows what respect is and knows how to communicate.

No wonder he is divorced. He complained that his Turkish wife would always fight with him and say to him "You're always right" and how this would annoy him and it caused him to take off and separate from her. I think even Turkish women don't tolerate this. My adivce to you is to leave and run away. Go back to America as fast as you can and don't marry someone from a different religion, who is an extremist, because this is the most difficult marriage to make work, especially if it is one sided. The cultures are way too different; however, i would like to add that i was able to meet some Turkish men who are not like this man I described. I deliberately dated them, to see if it was because he was Turkish, or just him. It was him, but i feel that because of his religious extremism, this contributed to his attitude. Life is too short - cut your losses now.

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