Where to live? stuck in a middle way...

Submitted by Kate K. (Poland), Dec 26, 2008 at 19:56

My dear friends,

I'm reading this blog since a long time and I see that one of the most common problems here is that some men just look for a green card.. for leaving their countries.. But I didn't find any comment concerning similar issue that i have..:

So, my problem is that I'm planning to marry my muslim man but he doesn't want to leave his country, and me, I don't want to live in Tunisia! I don't want to LOSE my life in this poor country! He claims he has a good job there ( he is professor of arabic language), he wants to built house there ( he's already shown me the place where our house will be built) and he has NO IDEA why i don't want to live in such a beautiful country like Tunisia.. When I'm telling him that his country will not provide us such a comfort of life like England or France ( freedom of thought, of social behaviour)- HE DOESN'T REALIZE WHAT I"M TALKING ABOUT... HE's always telling: People from all over the world are comming to Tunisia so what's wrong? But when i answer that they're coming just for few days of holidays, our discussion ends.

We care so much of our relationship but is the only one solution to break up all this just for such an issue? We have already resolved more important issues concerning religion of our future children or place of woman in a society.. He's so open minded and tolerant but our place of living stays a big problem.

He's coming soon to visit me ( He'll be for the first time in Europe) and i'm praying God for him to change his point of view while comparing Tunisia to my country...
OMG, I've always tears in my eyes when i can't make him understand what does living in a FREE country consist on... He's so well educated and intelligent so why he doesn't see that he's living in a "prison"... He refused even his cousins, for example, who are living in Europe and invited him many times there to visite them bc as he claims, he doesn't like to be far away from home... He's always saying he's making this EXCEPTION (wow, should I be grateful, or what?! :-/ ) just for me...

Sorry for embarrassing You with all this tiring story but please, what do you think of this?

Kate.K

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