Response to Virginia on Moroccan men, on-line dating, Morocco, Islam, Peace Corp

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 26, 2008 at 23:25

wow ... in my opinion this girl is very intelligent for her age. she can hold her own even with you. the opinion i have is that you actually said you dont date via internet however you admitted already that you had an online courtship.

First of all, you and I both know that youre only saying that because you and her agree and feel the need to come on here and defend long distance relationships with Muslim men for various reasons.

Everyone I have had a "courtship" with on-line I have met in person soon after the initial on-line encounter.

Like some of the other women on here, my courtship was a disaster. It was over 2 years ago now though, and I use that experience to help others.

Lina has a much more open mind than many of her peers on say facebook or myspace. Her defensive arguments, though, are not anything I have not heard before, and we'll see if she avoids my questions in my most recent response to her. I am glad that she prefers to avoid date on-line, and by all means, Virginia, give the women on here credit who stop these relationships before all nonsense breaks loose.

If you consider that "holding her own"....so be it.. She's told me she wanted to help other women (I really do not see how since her stances on specific relationships contradict her principles) but we'll see what she says if she responds.

and you also said you are attracted too some older women, however you mentioned in your previous blog that you are 26 and would have a hard time dating someone even in their 30s. make up your mind luigi.

Attraction is not enough reason to date someone, certainly not for me. That is a central problem I encounter on this blog.

the advice you give does not apply too all. you have too break it down per situation.

Let me guess: by "does not apply to all" you mean you.

If you have been reading my posts, it should be obvious, virginia, that I take them on a case-by-case basis. The problem is that patterns of on-line and meet-your-man-on-a-trip relationships frequently are the same. As I have been pointing out, its really not a coincidence that the relationships on here frequently feature divorced women who are older than the man. Naturally, you are going to see patterns in my advice, especially since LDR-defense posts are dominanting recently.

I'm actually not all that surprised that trend has come about, though. Those who are truly secure in their relationships neither need my advice nor do they need to search the internet for the topics discussed on here.

There's always some general advice for any relationship, such as giving your partner money or if he's on-line at 3 am local time. I would hope that common sense would prevail, but I guess melanin concentrations and ethnic origin trump that.

I would have to plead guilty to that as well.

You can get all wrapped up in the uniqueness of it all you like, it does not nor ever will change reality.

one girl i email with is in the peace corp. and is married recently too a moroccan and plans too stay in morocco. wonder what his motive is? hum could be he really loves her . wow imagine that !! a moroccan with a real heart.

Key word: Recently. Sometimes it takes months to years for these relationships to show their true colors. Then, you have the cultural differences.

But I would not be surprised at all if she were a self-described, independent secularist who converted to Islam on his behalf? That would be interesting to know for certain.

Also, I would really drop the whole insuation that I think that all Moroccan men are bad. I have said before on here that Morocco has a positive growth rate and 33 million people. You would not have that if all Moroccan men were bad. Its just that most Moroccan men will marry women who either in their own age range or younger....oh, and they will mostly be from Morocco, just like how most British men marry British women, and well, you get the idea.

Now it's your turn to imagine that, Virginia.

hope you find your happiness

I do alright. I appreciate the thought.

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