General Response to Nora

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 27, 2008 at 23:47

Nora, I'm going to try and answer some of the questions you have posed to me in a single post:

1) Can on-line relationships ever work-out?

They can and have, under very mitigating circumstances. It usually involves two people who are very compatible and motivated for the style of relationship. The successes are also overwhelmingly in favor of people who live in proximity, ie the same country and have a lot in common. They are not lazy about it and to some degree figure out that on-line dating is NOT easier BUT harder than real-life dating.

They also meet frequently and the initial meeting occurs in a safe, public place.

As you can clearly see, most of the situations on here do not coincide with what I just said, and even when they do, like with the myspace woman in my case, it does NOT promise you anything! As I have said, people who frequently navigate the internet often do so for not-so fantastic reasons---not ideal to find a life partner!

2) What about moving to your man's country? Does that eliminate a scam?

NO! Assuming that down the road the man does not change his mind and wants to move to your country instead, there are whole host of other problems.

Yes, you mentioned cultural differences. Some Westerners I talk to like to consider themselves "colorblind". I reject this idea because the reality is that your culture, and yes, even skin tone, do affect the nature of your relationship whether you like it or not, even in the manner of how others perceive it.

Hisham Zein told us about a phenomena known as the "baby racist". What he is referring to is a biological trait that has been created/evolved in living things (including us) where we will protect and defend our own genetic code AND the most similar organisms that resemble this genetic code. I'm sure , for example, that you would feel much worse if a baboon were butchered as opposed to say a bacteria dying from antibodic remedies.

All the stuides done about how racism and sexism and ageism are "learned" behaviors in Western universities DOES not reflect what Hisham talked about. That's just poltically correct nonsense that is plaguing our soceity.

Also, many women have pointed on here that some of the men who are "dating" the women on here are already married and are looking for an extra wife to do the dishes, mop the floor and the occasional sex fling with a woman who is, well "different."

Ladies, we males can get just as excited about it as you do.

3) Nora, I think that your English is fine. Better than my Arabic, that's for sure ^_^

4) Yes, we tend to agree most of the time. 75% sounds about right.

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