My opinion to Katie K

Submitted by Lisa of USA (United States), Dec 28, 2008 at 02:06

Katie k...First off .... Only you know personally what your relationship is like...My advice is if he truly loves you, he will make exceptions. Mine told me he could live anywhere as long as he can be with me.,,,,but again yours has an excellent job. I have kids too at ages 12, almost 14 and 23 so they do not want to give up their school and friends. one of my kids do want to go with me on my next trip if their dad will sign giving her rights...... If we could not agree I would never sacrifice what my kids wanted. They are at ages they are my responsibility and I could not put a man before my kids and run off to be with him like some women could easily do...happens all the time....No man is that important too me no matter how much it may hurt so I agree with you on your reasoning and way of thinking. We had talked about this in my relationship too. He loves his country too and his family....

.Now what you might can suggest if you are willing...i did agree with mine that once my kids are grown and we are much older...he asked if we can both return to live in Morocco if I would have no problem with it? Of course he said too we would make that decision when the time comes. I did tell him I think I would cause if he could leave his family for me now...would it not be selfish of me to not share in his wishes as well one day in future? Morocco does not have some of the luxeries we have here so life can be hard there....They still use primitive farming tools(not tillers)..most do not own washers/dryers and hang clothes out of windows or dry on lines by the beach or roof tops...They use gas to have hot water and for stoves.....its not as hygeine there as our places of businesses or resturants.....They beat rugs and clean carpets by hand...They have more physical manual labor than we do here and their are less jobs and they do not pay well...These are things you need to discuss with your fiance.

What kind of life will your children have if most of their own want out to better themselves.....He would have to put your kids needs before his own which is what we are doing. This may not be what you wnat to hear but you have to decide. Maybe once he sees first hand and what your world has to offer him compared to his own he will have a better picture....You have to realize it is scarey for them too the thought of leaving.....Mine ask me all the time how he will be treated here and worry if I will take care of him as far as cooking lol and asks if I think I will love him always....They are trusting us as much as we have to trust them....and they hear too stories of frnds having American wifes and we are mean to them once they get here and other stories so these stories are two sided....They have to have faith in us too and they have to look inside our hearts as well....maybe you will have your answer when he comes to visit...sorry I couldn't be of any more help.

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