Welcome, Bluebean!!!

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Dec 29, 2008 at 22:16

Thanks for sharing your story with us! I'm sure it was not the easiest thing to share with us.

Ok, so you met this man. I'm sure he's charming, good looking and I can certainly understand your attraction to him.

Here are the problems I see:

First off, the fact that he lied to you about his nationality. That is something that scammers commonly do. I once had a Russian woman pretend to be from the town next to mine. In an e-mail, she confessed she lied but insisted her reasons for doing so were just. In the next e-mail, she told me she loved me. That was way too soon.

Third, I do not believe for a single second that you have changed him. People do not change like that, and if by some miracle they do, you can bet its temporary.

Fourth, what evidence do you have that he has been cut off? That could be a total lie. In fact, its a ripe idea to get you to offer him money. They rarely will ask for it, but they usually find some way of getting you to offer.

I do not buy his little sob story for a single second. Neither should you.

He may seem like a nice guy, but it's hardly worth it if you are being deceived. He's lied once, and you excused him for it, but as a guy it means he's gotten with it and he'll do it again, I'll bet. There are just too many lies here for my liking, and I've bolded all the warning signs. I am sorry, bluebean, and believe me, I know this situation is very hard for you, but this man is nothing but trouble.

The other thing is: Even if he is telling the truth about his family, he is not likely to choose you over them. Sometimes, families are involved in the scam, other times they want nothing to do with it.

He could also be telling you this so that you'll hurry up and marry him. Quick marriages are a great way to conduct money and visa scams, because people who are spontaneous buy into things a lot easier. Next time you are in the grocery store, compared the prices of the candy in at check-out to those in the aisles. And why do you think that tabloids are sold at the check-out? Higher chance of getting sold.

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