To Another Anonymous in the USA

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Dec 30, 2008 at 20:16

I know that you are treading carefully and keeping all your avenues open but there are two issues here which would have me running.

1.You say that his family don't know about you and he has children from a previous marriage I presume. I suspect that his family do know about you and once in the US he will send all his money home to them and his wife to look after the children. Yes - I suspect too that he is still married.

2. He says that he will give you 5 years of his life. Have you asked what he means by this? Reading between the lines that's how long it will take for him to get his family including his wife and children into the USA.

You are wise to keep asking questions but before you get in too deep with this man and find him on your doorstep you need to have definitive answers. Your understanding of the Muslim family is correct as he would never leave the family ciircle willingly unless there was something better for him.

I don't think that the age difference is an issue but keep in mind that it is a shameful process to divorce in the middle east and a man can have two wives. My thought is that he has two wives, his Muslim wife and you.

Please be careful.

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