Dora, hope this helps

Submitted by Abby (United States), Jan 6, 2009 at 19:46

hi dora,

first i want to say that being educated, visionary, intelligent, or whatever, i've found has nothing to do falling in love with these muslim men. if you think about it; i've dated so many american guys who turned out to be jerks. men are men, no matter what, no matter where, but as you say, and as we all know (those of us who have been with muslim men) it is their cultural way. women are NOT to be liberal at all. not one bit. don't be outspoken....etc.

i don't think you are going to be able to do anything to get this man to meet you half way. just keep putting off the marriage until you're sure that you want to marry this man. and if you are already having sex with him, thats another issue. if you're in love, and i'm sure you are, that makes it harder.

you're a christian, and he's muslim, and thats a hard combination. these men have a very protective force about them and it makes a woman feel safe and secure and definately wanted and loved like we all want to feel.
but all of these muslim men seem to be boyish pouters, immature, and spoiled. i know from experience as many on this site do as well.

i've gone through a time where my guy just decided he'll pout for 4 days without speaking to me. but you overlook it, and go on.
on this site, most of us use to vent, but it does not mean we will leave these men. it means we want a magic answer to our problem and there is none, just as there are NONE for any american relationship, or whatever nationality. love is love and all we can do is pray and see where it goes if we do not have the strength to leave. 98 percent do NOT have that strength. we all mostly wait until we hit the wall.
God bless you Dora, i'll be praying for you and your relationship.
Abby

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