Hear me out please-dora

Submitted by Nora Wimberley (United States), Jan 7, 2009 at 09:11

What you have described is a typical egyptain. I have talked to men that have been from many countries. And men from Egypt in my opinion seem to be more set in there ways along with men from Turkey. They have a belief system, and it is hard to break from that. While you 2 was on the internet he could be the man he wanted to be, but now that you are in his country, it is hard to be the man he wants to be. He has traditions and culture tugging at his soul. And it is not uncommon for these men wanting to knwo where you are going. As men usually escort woman, to where they need to go. Unless it is 2 women going together. He probley cares for you very much and really only wants to protect you in his country and without having a little control he finds it hard to protect you. Eygptains are very serious people and very religious weither they are muslim or christain. That is the only constant they have in there country at times. Are you living there by your self, because i heard woman are not allowed to live by them selves. But then i have heard many misconceptions myself too.

But then you could be getting a dose of reality, that you did not see on the internet before living there with him. The fact you are paying to live there in his country and possibly paying for other things for him makes me wonder. Because most muslim men have to be the sole provider, maybe he has a problem with that too. It is to easy to judge and assume the worst on what you have told us. But i am unlike most on here and think outside the box. I think that maybe he feels that he is unable to protect you with all your independence you are use too. And i wonder how he would feel if you said that at this time you feel you can not marry him and would like to go back to your country so you can think things through, it could be a ice breaker so you can have a good heart to heart with him, and ask him if these are issues for him. One thing i have learned is these men do not want use to worrie about them with there problems they are use to be doing it all for them selves. And my man lightly touches on subjects that bother him. If i presue it to much he closes up, but if i tell him he can tell me when he is ready he usually opens up like a book. And it comes down to there is nothing i can do to help him and he don't want to burden me with his problems. Even though we are committed to each other. It takes very good communication to get them to open up well. And on top of that they are sensitive, and launage barriers (how we use our words) all play in this scenrio.

Just do not jump the gun. You 2 use computers again to communicate, sometimes it is easier behind a screen. With all the cyber cafes, and again these are just ideas. NO one knows him as well as you do here, so only you kow if these things will work. But i am betting your independence is a problem for him because of culture. Where if he was in your country he does not have culture tugging at him, and might be more willing to let you be independent. Maybe his friends are not as accepting as he is and he is getting pressure from other people. Anything is possible.

Nora

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