Love is Blind---a response

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 7, 2009 at 16:47

Dear love is blind:

First of all, if you feel you are in danger, you MUST contact the police and then the Border Office (home office).

Thanks so much for sharing and I appreciate your candor on here. I know it's not easy from defending your relationship to realizing what an utter disaster it is.

It really does not surprise me that you met him on-line, though. This kind of situation is really more common than you think.

Non-practicing Muslim, huh? Well, getting drunk and making a huge scene at the bar or the pub sounds hardly like a practicing Muslim to me. On a side note, perhaps we can put to rest the idea that Islam gets picked on here.

In any case, love is blind, I have to say I am not a fan of divorce, but it does exist for a reason. I would venture to guess that you never really knew this man in the first place. It's pretty tough to get to know someone on-line because the lack of in-person communication allows for deception to be easier.

I have no doubt that this started out very well. They always, always do. It's really after marriage that is the real test, and by then, well, it's gamble, usually a negative one it seems to me.

He did not use you for a greencard? Well, that maybe, but I'm sure you've seen us talk about other motives on here. You are indeed being treated like a possession and this is hardly an equal marriage.

Look, love is blind, this is one you've got to walk away from. So, does that mean moving out of your own house? Maybe temporarily, so you can secure it back in a divorce--with him gone. You are being abused here, so I would highly recommend staying with a family member, friend or even going to a battered woman's shelter. There is no shame in that, but you have got to get out of this! I can't do it for you, nor can anyone else on here. I'm more than happy to listen to what you have to say, but this ulimately is up to you, and I know others on here and myself can walk away from abusive relationship/marriage, so can you. We're not any better than you are.

-Luigi

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