The Good Ones

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 7, 2009 at 22:33

Yes, Carmel, there are good ones. If there were not, Egypt would not the population growth rate it has.

The trouble comes with all the international distance, cultural difference and communication gap. It also comes with the fact that many of the posters on here are divorced or even have a type of mental illness that makes them more vulnerable to these scams.

What you are reading on here applies not to only to Middle Eastern men but to women from regions outside of what is typically called the First World, ie, Japan, Israel and the West. Men actually are scammed much easier than women, believe it or not.

The reality is, Carmel, whenever you engage in a long-distance relationship, especially if it is with someone you met on-line, you really do have the odds stacked against you. There are plenty of visa and money scammers out there, but you must also remember in addition to that you have the usual pool of bad men, drunkards, and even after that the cultural differences.

You make an interesting point about how it would be easier to have him in your country, but if you are married, Carmel, you are legally bound to him through the Italian State. That is what the scammers want because it puts them on the path to citizenship and rights in the courts that they can use to dig into your wallet and possessions before leaving. Sometimes, they are just content to sit at home, learn the local language, get the proper documents (even if it takes years). That is why you see marriages, not just relationships on here breaking down.

Of course, no one wants to hear this, but once it all comes crashing down, they wish they had. Look, Carmel, you do not have to do this if you do not want to. Be in control and do not let him have this power over you!

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