Response to Keri ref....Fiance Visa

Submitted by LISA USA (United States), Jan 8, 2009 at 10:14

Lisa, letting your love for a man cloud your judgement is never a good thing. What is the harm in bringing him to the USA as your fiance? Why the rush to marriage? At least it would buy you some time to get to know him better in real life.

Keri I do not need to BUY SOME TIME...Do you not get that this man is a good man. Do you think I would marry ANY man if i do not think he is good and right for me or I did not feel I know him.

Come on,. I am 42 not 18 and needing advice from my mom.....Because i love this man does not mean my judgement is wrong about him....I am headstrong and very Independent. Im also clever....I am self supporting of myself and do not "have to have" a man....This man knows this. Do you think i would allow myself to be abused or lied to or neglected all because I love him so much. Come on Keri...I am not DUMB and stupid like some have been in their relationships.

He has told me often he is coming to USA and has to follow our laws. I have not had any qualms about this man since the first day we started talking. We bulit our relationship what it is now...We didn't start out telling each other I Love you. He didn't play any of the games or trying to find out what I owned or how much money is in bank....its been a year now and he still does not ask me about my financial status and he knows most of the time i live paycheck to paycheck and I have offered to help and give "MY HUSBAND" money and he always says baby you have kids...I will be ok...A year and he still does not accept money and he does consider me his wife....It took a while to feel and know we were in love....He wanted to make sure as well "IN REAL" he likes to call it....so therefore we had our meeting which we both could walk away as frnds from.

We truly love one another and feel we both will be very happy..Neither felt nervous or uncomfortable at all.....yeah yeah some have heard this before but difference is he means it from the heart not just spilling it to gain monetary things or Visa....I do not send him money nor does he have to Leave Morocco for he is not what one would say is poor and has had many offers there for even a better life....but with that said I am sure he too sees that his life can be even better here with the one he loves. He is more lonely than looking to get out of his country. He wants us both to one day return or the question was imposed and i did agree that I will one day when my Kids marry which is several years.

Why will a Fiance visa be any different and make you learn this man any more than marrying in Morocco and compare that to having to wait and get to know your man even more through the year or so you will have to wait for the Spousal Visa to be approved and many more visits to him during the waiting process. Keri 3 months will not guarantee anyone a True lasting relationship....People can always change and if that is the case, on EITHER of our parts, he or i am free to go our separate ways. I can move on easily and not be sitting here putting down all Moroccans like some out of bitterness and sorry ladies stupidiness because they kept taking and taking from you and you steady gave it to them. Keri I am not worried about My husband...he knows and trusts me and i know and trust him. We are not RUSHING as well...if so i will be there now to marry him! I am marrying him 3 months from now...He is not rushing me nor am I rushing him or even afraid of losing him....I know what our relationship is built on. It is trust and love and patience.

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