reply to Lugi

Submitted by Nora Wimberley (United States), Jan 9, 2009 at 07:40

Thanks for saying for me to follow my instincts. I do not post to many personal things on here about my relationship or my finace because i have been attacked on not saying anything about him, period. I post on here because i do have a lot of knowledge on scams. Seen them at play everyday. After my divorce i use to sit on my computer and just chat. Was not looking for anything, but dang the scammers come out and play weither you want them to or not. And what amazes me about a scammer, is you can say you are a scammer and i want nothing to do with you. And they will say it is will all be ok, in time, you will see. And you learn they have no emotions. I did get caught up in a scam. I learned a expensive lesson. But as Visa's go, Lugi. I am in a group of women that have or are bringing there moroccan men to the states. And i can tell you they are more supcios about scams they these bitter women. If these men could come without a visa they would Lugi. But you are very set in your ways about culture differences that you do not understand the whole process. If i found a good man in the states i would be thrilled, less headache. But that does not mean i will be any happier with a man in the states to oppose to a man from another country. And the choice is mine weither i live there or bring him here.

This is the point, this is my choice. I have not jumped into anything here. I met my guy after knowing him for a year. So i was not swept up in a begenning romance to see my shinning knight in armour. And now we are on to a 1 and a half. I have children that are my first concern, and what i do effects them. So i want to make sure before i do anything, i have thought all things out, and talk to this man about everything. He can be anything he wants to be on the ohter side of the screen. I think that is why i did go there, to meet him. If he was not what he said he was then i was going to have a good 2 weeks in morocco experience something i had not before. But when i got there, I did not have to ask to see anything. He just started showing me things he had talked about. I did not ask to see his diver lincense, but he showed me them, the regular one and the one you have to have to drive taxi. I did not ask to see his family birth record book, but he showed me it. So i seen all the birthdays of his siblings and parents. I did not ask him to show me his pictures of him in the military, but he did. I did not ask him to meet his friends, but every day i meet someone new. The only thing i asked him was to go to cafe everyday or be able to call my children. And everyday at the same time he would say are you ready to go talk to the kids and mom. I did not ask him if we could go to the cafe, because he always was asking me if i was ready. I did not ask him to buy me anything while i was there. But he bought me a ring and clothes and my kids clothes. I did not ask him to go out to eat at cafes or resturants, but every day one meal was at a resturant. I am a curious person, we went to a old french city that is now in ruins. I am curious and like to explore, he was always saying nooo, don't do that. Why because he cares and if i got hurt in his country he is held accountable for me. And plus health care there is not the best unless you are in a bigger city. ( I know you are going hmmmm to my last 2 sentences, he is held accountable, and i bet you think well he don't want to go to jail for you)

And when we went out we was rearly alone. One of his brothers or close friend was with us. His best friend traveled with us, as he lives far from the airport he asked me to come in. I asked him i could of flew in a closer city. He tells me i know but i wanted to show you places in my country and if you flew in closer city, they you could not ride on train. I told him that i had not ever rode on a pessenger train, which are not cheap there. He always paid for 1st or 2nd class tickets on the long train rides, since those was over night. My guy has been good to me Lugi, he treated me better then any american man has, and i have been with good men here. NO one knows there future. And there is people set on this earth that are to be involved in these type of relationships. For the good or bad. I come on here not because i am not happy in my relationship, i come on here becasue people hate a entire ethic group becasue of one experience most times. My message is one arab did you wrong not all arabs. Granted there is a lot of scamming, but that percentage is low compared to the whole.

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