response to-American woman not yet in love with this Moroccan man....

Submitted by Nora Wimberely (United States), Jan 9, 2009 at 08:27

You are so ahead of the game. You are asking all the right questions. As far as his cousin, you just will not know for sure. Many moroccan women become old maids as we call them here. Many moroccan women are looking for love outside there country. In 2007 the rates for moroccan women marring internationals was higher then males. It is the poor familys that marry there daughters off very young in hopes of increasing reputaion and a little money. Morocco is being more westernized, hence a lot of scamming. It is not unusual for a moroccan man to not think anything about divorce. They do not approve of it, but they are not against marrying a divorced woman.

And the fact you have talked to this man for so long and he is only purposing love is a good sign. And to be honest only time will tell if he is scamming you. The fact he is making you a gift is great and i would be excited. But when he sends it except at least 2 weeks to get it. Maybe even a month. The post moves slow there.I just advise you to take it slow still even if you make the decision to become involved. The talking with family members is great, becasue they know about you. But many will say they are in on the scamming too, and anything is possible.

You have to listen to your gut instincts and not your heart on this. You have children. If he loves you now he can love you in a year too. What you do effects them too. I have 4 kids and love my moroccan man very much. I would ask him if he knows the visa process though. It is not a good sign if he can describe the whole process. Which means he has been through it before or a very close friend has and he has memorized it detail for detail. My guy had a idea, because many of his friends where in the processes of visa's. But he was really clueless and we learned together. I would also advise you to join a goup on yahoo. I am in a good group, and they are supportive. I just do not want to give the name of the group on here.

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