Help!!

Submitted by Raz (Australia), Jan 10, 2009 at 22:55

I've been seeing a muslim man for over a year now iam an orthodox christian who is strict in my religion, and his a strict muslim! and despite our diffrence in our religion we are deeply in love. we talk about marriage having kids and spending the rest of our lives togther, but my family yet do not Know! i dont know what i should do if i should consider taking the risk and telling my family, who will more than likely disown me once they find out! no matter how much i try i cant get him out of my life..i want to but i dont want to!

Like any other couple we often have our ups and downs, however ours is due to religion! he always mocks christianity how its wrong and how can we believe in somthing that contradicts itself. in his eyes there is no other religion other than islam and he seems to have difficulty accepting that there are hundreds of religions out there. Despite that he treats me like a princess, respects me gives me everything and anything, we get very upset with each other when i say anything bout islam or he says anything bout christianity. he tells me that he would never convert me and that we can marry and i stay a christian and him a muslim however our kids are to be muslim no matter what and that christianity is not to be mentioned at all around them.

i see myself spending the rest of my life with him, yet how do i know he will keep his word about me staying a christian, he woudnt try converting me and he'll let me be! especially with his family on his back telling him that i have to change otherwise our relationship will never work. how do i know for a fact that he is worth risking my family for him. even though i would never convert because i know my religion to well my family will still want nothing to do with me, as marrying a muslim is one of the worst things some one can do in an arabic culture as traditionally the women always follow the men regardless of what they are.ive explained to him many times that i dont think i can risk everything i have for him because i cant garantee this is going to be forever yet He allways says if i love him the way i say do then i would do anything for him. but he doesnt understand that my God and My family comes before anyone regardless!

im stressing and i have no idea what to do i wish he would convert to make it so much easier but i know that will never happen. ive had the courage so many times to tell them and then i think about the possibilities and my courage just shatters. i need some help i want to be able to talk to some one who knows and understands what its like. because ive spoken to friends and they have no idea what its like being in this situation many people just tell me if you love him then go for it do what your heart tells you. they dont understand that there is more to it than what my heart feels.

i need some advice it would be greatly appreciated if some one can help me :)

thank you:)

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