Re; Donna

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 11, 2009 at 17:46

You are misreading my responses. I am not trying to generalize in any way about women, especially with mental illness. I am not using that term as an insult, but as a fact that I have observed from over seven years of on-line dating. Some of the women I have dated have had this issue.

People who are mentally ill (depression, OCD, bipolar, ect.) can and will seek attention on-line, and all i am saying is that is possible for divorced women to develop depression. Some women on here might already be ill. It can be an ugly experience, and I owe it to the women on here to cover all the bases, Donna. So, I'm not saying that some folks on here maybe ill because they in fact may be legimately sick beyond their control, not because of their dating habits. It certainly is noting to mock or ashamed of, but it's really important to recognize what is going on and why.

Because I myself have been had before with on-line dating and distance relationships, I am by no means saying anyone on here is stupid, and the last thing I want to do is insult someone with petty name calling.

I agree with you that the men discussed on here are deficient, and for the Muslim men its my understanding that Muslims are supposed to be thankful for what they have, even if it is meager, but at some point, Donna, we have to move on. It's okay to be hurt and sad, but if you let it impact your life, then they've won. For starters, decent men are not going to go out with you if you are pining for a man in another country. I really don't this as a consistent problem on here, though.

I've written several responses to man-defense posts stating that this is the last place where the Muslim and Middle Eastern culture will be praised, and I understand the hurt and pain that comes with getting screwed.

I realize that is difficult, and that's why i encourage women to interact with people in real life on a daily basis, but I also cannot deny the fact that almost every poster on here is an adult, and when you talk about marriage and visas, well, those are legal contracts with government, which really is not going to have the level sympathy I do.

I hope this clears things up, because from what I can tell, we pretty much always agree. :D

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