To Jennifer

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jan 11, 2009 at 19:14

The biggest red flag is that you are divorced with 3 children. Sorry to break the bubble but when a man offers to "help" pay for the airfare, I have a problem. If a man wants me to come to his country, state, private island, he will pay for the ticket and fedex it to my house.

You are insightful to wonder about the 35 y/o "unmarried cousin" living in the house.

Ask alot of questions and listen to both what he says and what he doesn't say. One of my grandmother's many words of wisdom was, "he who says nothing, says much."

Good luck.

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