Kindred spirits, when it comes to a man...

Submitted by Jennifer (United States), Jan 11, 2009 at 19:56

I completely relate with you, anonymus3.

A charming man comes into your life, saying all the right things at the right time, making you feel as though you truly are beautiful, appreciated, smart, and would be the perfect match for him. He makes you feel as though you are exactly what God made you to be. It most certainly feels like a drug, you get addicted to those feelings and emotions without realizing it. And by the time you realize in your mind that it is best you should walk away, your heart fights it, because it now needs those feelings and emotions in order to feel complete.

Your life has a plan, something that only you can fulfill. God made us as such complicated emotional creatures, but he gave us built-in protection and defenses. The "bad feeling about this" and the "just doesn't seem right" thoughts are our mind screaming at us to run away from the situation. The problem is that our heart is so much louder when it comes to relationships. We just don't pay attention because of the totally awesome feeling we have when that man gives us 15 minutes of his day & makes us feel beautiful again.

The best two suggestions I can make, and both involve leaving this guy for good: 1) Find someone else. He doesn't have to be anything monumental. But make sure you do not fall for him, keep him only for a short while. This will give you a 'crutch' to get you through that period of sadness that follows breaking up with your man. Just don't fall for the new guy, he is what he is, and that is to get you through a rough spot, nothing more. (2) Realize you are a strong, beautiful, independant woman. Know this in your heart, mind and soul. Once you just 'feel it' and know you are strong enough, you can move on with grace and honor that you did not give in to your heartache.

(the suggestions are condtradicting I know, but it depends on what would work best for you) Good luck and well wishes!

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