Response to Help-Raz

Submitted by Nora Wimberley (United States), Jan 12, 2009 at 08:34

You have a dilemma that is very frequent. You have to decide what you are willing to live with and what you are willing to not live with. You are not going to convert and he is not going to convert. And it is normal that men say the kids will be raised by their religion. You 2 need to reach a compromise. Both of you talk seriously and say i do not want religion to be a problem for us, but we have to come to terms in which we can follow and feel comfortable. Because if you don't and you pursue this relationship it will continue to grow to be a problem. Both of you will resent each other's religion.

But i have a site for you. It is about interfaith relationships of muslime women and why they can not marry a non-muslim. But it talks equally of muslim men marring non-muslim women.. http://ebrahimsaifuddin.wordpress.com/2006/11/07/interfaith-marriages-why-can%E2%80%99t-a-muslim-woman-marry-a-non-muslim-man/ It says a muslim man is not to try to convert his non-muslim wife if she is of the holy books. I hope this helps.

Next your family, why have you not told them? I understand devout family. but you have to live your life the way set forth for you. You have done injustice to him to hide him. Has he hid you from his family?? It is better to be honest with all involved and i am sorry family is involved to a point. But you have to live your life for you and not fear of your family rejection. The best you can do is educate them and show them how Islam is simular. I mean you have done some research right? I am catholic and i don't see myself converting, but i am learning about Islam. Because no matter what it does effect how my fiance lives and veiws life. And understanding that i can understand him better. One thing about muslims they learn all the same stories we do as christains as so much of Islam basics is from that time. ...

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