Here's what needs to be done

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 12, 2009 at 15:47

Thank you for sharing that story, anonymous! I can tell this has been a pretty rough ride for you. I have some ideas that can help:

The first and most important thing you can do is to just stay away from the computer and get out of the house. Go out, have a good time with your friends, treat yourself, go and see family. You don't even have to talk to them about this (though it may help to discuss it with someone in person), just have a good time. I think you may be surprised.

Just remind yourself how nice it is to have fun without internet baggage.

The second thing: Uninstall your messanger programs, block him, do whatever it takes to get him out of your life!

It is hard to leave on-line relationships, certainly harder than it looks, and I have been there before. It may something you cannot do all at once, but it is important to start the moving on process. All we can do is go forward from here, and getting out and away from your computer would be a start.

I really don't think you are stupid; a lot us get roped into on-line romance, and the attention that he gives you I'm sure is intoxicating. But ask yourself: is it really worth all the headache and heartache? It seems pretty to clear to me that he's not pulling his weight here and just draining your bank account. That's what happened to me as well. It's really no fun, and now he has the nerve to ask you to marry him??

And you will still be beautiful even after you leave him. So what are you waiting for? Go out and have some fun!

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