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Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Jan 13, 2009 at 21:28

So far my Tunisian man has not once mentioned anything about wanting or needing money, or going to the US (says he doesn't want to go there).

Words,words,words...I can say I am an incarnation of Buddha ...so what...Do you believe me?

He has only mentioned wanting to take me to Tunisia to meet his friends and family one day. He has a very good job here. (I have been to his office and met colleagues).

In fact it could have been staged...

I have met his father on several occasions, who is visiting from Tunisia right now. This has always been pleasant. My man treats me very kind, and recently took good care of me when I was sick. He supports me when I vent about my work, but doesn't like the stress it causes me.

Well...This man could be his father or not...Scammers are ruthless...they know women need some kind of contact with family...the feeling they are accepted and approved...

For me, there are only a few "problems" at this point. The language barrier is the biggest. He only speaks Arabic & French (very little English, although he's learning more each day). I speak English, but I'm having to dig deep into my brain to recall 3 years of high school French so that we have a common language. It gradually gets better over time, but makes it hard to have long, deep-subject conversations for now.

Well- that is quite an issue...Dont you think?

There is also a big age difference, with me being older. BUT, I appear much younger to most people and therefore have dated American men his same age, so I don't feel targeted in that respect. He looks older than the age he is, but I have seen his ID card that confirms. So we don't look obviously out of sync as a couple in that respect. It's just my own insecurities that come in to play, as they would even if he were American.

ID could be fake...Ive seen kids with fake ID's so that they can enter nightclub...If he is planning to scam you- for sure he could prepare sth as TRIVIAL as fake ID

The ease in which he uses words of love so quickly bothered me a bit, but was well aware of this phenomenom with Arabic men and that it is a cultural thing. I've just tried not allowed myself to swoon too much over his words just yet.

It is not...I mean it is- but only with Western girls...

The one big concern is why he is 28 and not married...or is he, and I'm somehow blind to the signs?. So far he takes all calls around me (they're all from men).

How do you know?
His wife could be listed as "Ahmed"

His father knows we're dating and is supportive, but of course could be covering for him. He spends almost all free time with me, so if he is communicating with a wife elsewhere (I have been to where he lives here on several occasions and it is clearly a bachelor pad) it is during the time he should be sleeping, or during working hours.

As I said- it could be his friend/not father...
Dont you think it is a little fishy- Father visits his adult son- what about his job in Tunesia? Besides it would cost a lot of money- Tunesians rather come to Qatar for work, not visits...

So for me, I can see where there can be the potential for positive, loving long-term relationships between the two cultures. But I also see, and feel, the need for extreme caution and going very slowly with this type of relationship.

The only relationship allowed in islam between man and woman is marriage- and islamic marriage is sth completely different from Christian/Western one...

My point was (and meant positively) is that he accepts all calls with me when we are together regardless of who they are from. If he had a wife or girlfriend, the assumption would normally be that there would be calls he gets that he doesn't take in my presence.

Why, if you dont understand Arabic ? He can talk with whoever he want...

Please be careful- these men are ruthless, even if they are religious- because some muslims believe that it is not a sin to con infidels...

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