Svet,Hunny and Been There

Submitted by anonymus 3 (United Kingdom), Jan 18, 2009 at 04:57

Thanks for your advice I know you are all right

its early yet and it dosen,t feel like it has stopped, it feels like he is still there in the background and he will call with another excuse. Because he was so nice about everything all the time, never angry no matter what i or he did or said it makes me feel like its my fault because i needed to understand his excuses and got annoyed as they were so far fetched at times.. Should I have just said OK everytime just because he is so far away and trusted him as he said to do? That is not me! I feel he went because I didn,t trust him but then I was unhappy a lot of the time when he constantly let me down with excuses that made me feel I couldn,t question them but he knew I wasnt happy. But I did mostly and then he answered in a manner that made me feel guilty although the stories were so dramatic!

You are right he has been love bombing me for 1 year most of it love and romance beautiful words all the time, but also pressure to marry. His brother called to talk about why i wont get marrid now and if I loved him I would. He knows I can,t afford to go over to egypt just yet as its all gone on trips to see him previously. All he says is the air fare is cheap now come over 1 time ,get marrid. Well he must be fed up of waiting now, he keeps disapearing, letting me down, not calling as much. Last time told me his hotel had closed and he was working in egypt for 3 months, he could not come to net for 1 week as he had to work? yeah whatever!

Today i am trying to get focused on my life here, i need to break away from the addiction of the past year with him and his constant attention. Yes I am going to open my eyes and realise that this man has talked his way into my life, feelings and emotions, emptied my bank account and probably just moved on without a care in the world. Yes i will have a very tortured life with him as I could never trust him, he would be controlling and I can only give so much. I will follow your advice and if he contacts now after 1 week then I will be ready!!

thanks and taking one day at a time x

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