Non-muslim marrying a Muslim

Submitted by One-eyed eagle (United States), Jan 18, 2009 at 12:28

For what is is worth to the ones considering marriage to a very friendly, intelligent, attentive Muslim gentleman who thinks you are of captivating intelligence and beautiful. About 15 years ago, a non-religious close friend and work associate of mine working as a systems executive in the federal sector in the DC area, began to go through a mid-life crisis because she had not had a child and decided she desperately wanted one.

Though a high paid married executive, she decided that since her husband did not want a child, she would respond to the affections of a 25 year old Muslim young man she had met in a circle of Muslim acquaintances in the Dearborn, Michigan area. She told him of her plight; he vowed to marry her as soon as she divorced and converted to Islam.

Despite advice from friends who had a far better knowledge of Islam than did she, she left her husband, flew out of the country for a quickie divorce and looked forward to her new and wonderful life. Though an educated woman with a pilot's license, she quit her executive job, married the young man and moved to the West Bank.

Over the next several years, we heard from her and she visited at her former worksite a couple of times. She related that though she had had several mis-carriages, she was still trying to get pregnant but the young husband was getting frustrated. They lived in the family compound in their own little apartment (where she could occassionally cook for her husband) with his parents. "Accepted by the family", she was lovingly referred to as "the whore" in the native language by his loving mother. She was not permited to carry any money as she "shopped" around town though she had been a very financially successful executive in her past life.

Her husband soon announced he would be taking a second, much younger wife and she was to fully accept her into their lives. After numerous failed attempts to give birth to a child and not happy that they had a new wife for her husband; she asked to visit her ailing parents in America. She disappeared in America, quietly divorced, luckily got a new good job and finally re-married--outside of the Islamic faith. She recognizes that had she had a child, the child would not have been allowed to leave with her and would be lost to her forever.

This isn't a made-up story though it certainly has all the makings for an informative movie. But then who in Hollywood would make it? Of course, it is only one small story in the larger scheme of things.

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