Oh, I knew you would respond Lisa, even though my comments were not directed at you

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 19, 2009 at 18:08

And like every other man-defense post, you don't address or answer the questions I pose.

Also, me not supporting your relationship is hardly an insult. If you find what I think to be insulting, it tells me that your relationship with this man is not that strong. And how could it be? You've only met him in the flesh once.

I find it hard to believe that you call people on here your "friends" when they support your relationship yet would not date over the internet period or take immense precautions in doing so themselves.

Neither you nor they seem very willing to address this issue, but considering the nature of the interactions on here and the nature of your and the others' relationships, I cannot say I should be surprised. After all, if you're willing to love someone over a keyboard and camera or a few visits per year, heck, why not make friends on a blog where all you can see are black letters?

It's quite clear to me that you are on here for specific reasons, and that my guesses as to why are close to the mark.

The truth is Lisa, I am convinced now more than ever that deep down you are not even sure, perhaps even scared. That is why I am on here. To help you realize that your fears are justified.

This whole argument over "I've watched him on cam for over a year" is really getting old. I've lost track over how many women I've talked with on cam, and I do know that adult sites offer this as well. Be assured, Lisa, there is only so much you can get from the camera. You cannot see into his eyes with the barrier, nor can you feel his touch or have the real presence that you would on a real date.

Oh, sure Lisa, you can post as much as you want. Certainly, don't hold back on my account, and hopefully now I've at least convinced you that I do not (nor can not) edit posts nor do I moderate this board.

But the thing is Lisa, the more relationship-defense posts that are put up on here, the more you validate my stance. People who are in loving, secure relationships do not need to post on-line, especially with the work schedule you have.

It's now reaching a point where I'm starting to wonder if some of you read more of what I say and talk to me more than you do with your significant others.

That in itself says a lot about your "relationship."

Flings, Lisa? Most of these encounters between older women and younger men end up as such, even when they meet in person at bars in the USA. I'm not judging the situation, that's just the way it is, and I have to say, it's pretty arrogant if you think that your situation is different from everyone else's just because you feel for this man and say that "everyone is different."

Everyone is different at some level or another, because that is how we were biologically designed, Lisa. But certain behaviors---like lies and deceit--- follow clear, distinctive patterns.

The whole "but I have a unique experience" excuse has been talked about on here before, and it just won't fly.

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