Mezmirized by Morrocan Man

Submitted by Glo (United States), Jan 20, 2009 at 23:48

I am thankful that I stumbled on these comments and this conversation. Only two weeks ago I met a very sweet, morrocan man and we started spending a lot of time together. I resisted at first and he was very persistant. I questioned his intentions because of the age difference. I am 48 and he told me he is 34. He said he has never been married and has only been in the USA for three years. I absolutely am school girlish around him, but am old enough to be cautious. I asked him questions about VISA and any wives or kids back in Morrocco. He insisted all he had was his family, and his friends in the city where we live (whom I have met).

For those who do not understand the compelling attraction a woman can have with a man from this culture, let me say he said and did everything right. Completely respectful, sweet, polite- held doors open, carried my purse, insisted on doing things for me. After ending a 22 year marriage with a schmucky self-centered American man, it was refreshing and exciting to get this kind of attention. He loved my Spanish culture and talked about our commonalities (Spain and Morrocco) all the time as if to validate us.

Still, my radar kept asking , why? He can date younger women, and he says he is not sure he wants to stay in USA. Too many things did not add up as easy as it would have been to let my heart run away with the idea of this relationship.

I ended it tonight and I am sad to miss his sweet affection, but am so relieved knowing I saved myself a mess- heart ache, family problems and financial ruin perhaps.

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