Helping "Needs Help"

Submitted by Rosa (United States), Jan 21, 2009 at 15:45

First, I am a Muslim lady who stumbled upon this site ... Regardless, do not go any further with this relationship unless your parents or a caring adult male relative is involved. If those terms are met, still be cautious. This approach applies to becoming romantically involved with any strange man you know absolutely nothing about.

In every nation, culture and religion there are men and women who misrepresent themselves in pursuit of marriage. Songs and movies have been written and produced about this; it is nothing new. If you are a follower of The Goddess philosophy, you are not considered a Person of the Book (Christian or Jewish) and therefore not legal to him to be his wife. If you are American, I can almost assure you that his motivation is to convince you to marry him and for him to move to the US.

Chances are the lady with the ring is in fact his wfe, and the children are his. Life is very very harsh for most people who do not live in the US and there is the possibility that his wife may even encourage him to marry an American (which is Islamically legal) as a chance for a better life for her own children even if she never leaves Morocco. However, deceit, lies, and misrepresenting yourself is wrong no matter what your faith. You have two children. Do not risk hurting them or yourself by getting involved with a complete stranger who can tell you anything (family background, education, profession, etc.) with no back-up.

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