ola, Claudia!!!

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 21, 2009 at 20:28

Wow, thanks for sharing your story!!!

First of all, Claudia, you are NOT crazy for coming on here. It's perfectly normal to not be certain, and such uncertainty is what brings so many women on here. They cannot quell their feminine instincits that detect male hogwash inside telling them this may not be real, and I think this is what is happening here.

Hmm....Well, the thing is, if you can travel to Morocco, that is certainly rich enough for him. I've really heard this before, that "Well, I'm poor and don't have much to offer" and I realize that many Mexicans, unfortunately, face economic hardships, but trust me, Claudia, if you are educated, have internet access and can travel, that's huge to these men and to them, it's worth the attempt. You would be surprised at the length people go to screw over someone else. I had another American women do that to me, and it took me about 10 grand and a few legal contracts later to realize my mistake.

I'm sure you're proud to be from Mexico, and I appreciate your realization that if he wanted a visa there are, perhaps, "better" places, but please keep in mind that Mexico does not have certain aspects of sharia law, Morocco does, it's just the laws really are not heavily enforced.

But let's throw aside the visa question. Even if your man isn't after a visa, there are PLENTY of other reasons why this can fail.

Look, I'm an American guy, and there are dating services all over the world that market to me, and I've talked to women from all over the world, including Latin America. I realize that you are just looking for a decent guy, but there are plenty of reasons for this man to hurt you, use you and/or lie to you besides a visa. It runs from using your womb to make little jihad soldiers to having a woman he doesn't care about to do all the house chores while he looks for a Muslim women to be his "real" partner.

There are all kinds of sinister men out there, and this concerns me, Claudia, because you've really only know this man for a month, the time you spent in person. And that was only a month, and I'm sure it was great. Believe me, ALL relationshisps start out good, especially in the first 1-3 months. This is often called the honeymoon phase, where everything seems just right.

Also, this texting and talking on-line cannot give you a good impression of who he really is. It can never be a substitute for in-person contact.

Like this story about him being abroad for being in the military? Morocco rarely sends its troops abroad, so, I wonder about that.

Also, you mention the age difference. It is worth noting, especially since you are younger AND the woman in the relationship. I realize this is not the level of difference that would quake a dating site administrator, but it is a common aspect to failed relationships.

Claudia, when I look at this, my personal view is that I really want you to ask yourself if this is really worth it. I think you would have a lot more fun dating someone more frequently in your own country. A lot of people who meet someone else abroad whether its on vacation or on-line usually don't seem to get the "happily ever after" they dream about.

I'm sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear, but I think its important to be honest.

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